I’ve received a lot of letters like yours in recent times, including this one about when it’s not OK to have your partner pay for your wine.Ī recent survey by LendingTree, a personal-finance site, found that one in five Americans are dating less due to inflation. “‘Today’s economic conditions no longer support the old-fashioned notion that men should always pick up the bill.’ ”Īll of that adds up to a lot of socializing under the auspices of mating rituals - where the man always pays - that really went out of fashion long before Hinge, OKCupid, Tinder, Bumble, Īnd Grindr came on the market. Men (36%) were more likely than women (14%) to say this. More than a quarter of respondents said they use apps to have casual sex. In this poll carried out by YouGov, more than one-third of respondents said they use dating apps so they have something to do - that is, they have incorporated dates into their social calendar as an activity, like going to the cinema or playing pickleball. Silicon Valley has commodified people’s romantic lives, and given the sheer number of singletons meeting, it no longer makes financial sense to always be the one to pay. Chivalry does not have to mean spending $600 a month on a merry-go-round of dating. You don’t have to pay for dinner every single time. Yes, you can go for coffee, and yes, you can buy your own. Thirty-something, Single and Aggravated Dear TSA, When did men have to pay for everything? When did dating have to be so expensive? Is coffee acceptable? Can I buy my own? But I’m spending upwards of $600 a month on dates, and it’s eating into my other living expenses. I hold the door for women, I stand up when a lady enters the room, and I pick up the check. If they’re not serious, then why do they agree to be taken out for dinner? A bottle of wine can cost upwards of $45. These days, and I’m tired of just throwing my cash around on other people’s social lives.Īt this point in the game - and it does feel like a game - I feel like I’m being taken advantage of by the women who agree to meet me on a date. Is taking a woman out for coffee on a first date acceptable? And can I just pay for my own? You don’t get much change out of $10 at Starbucks I spend my hard-earned money taking women out for dinner and drinks who I’ve met on Tinder, only to be ghosted by the second or third date.
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